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I'm going out to buy a couple bags of milk...

Discussion in 'Comings and Goings' started by Eebit, Feb 28, 2017.

  1. A befittingly Canadian thread title... but I feel like an absentee father more than ever, now.

    After the events of the past couple days, I've decided that I need some time and space for myself. I've said my piece, and there's no need to extend the drama further. I just want this thread to be an acknowledgement to those not privy to the discussion I had with the staff.

    I'll be taking a hiatus. I don't know how long it'll be for. Thanks for everything over the years, guys, I've really appreciated the opportunity to get close to and be friends with the talented, genuine people here who I have the pleasure to call my friends.

    I'm sure our paths will cross again in the future.
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  2. This feels like a permanent goodbye, even though my better judgement tells me it isn't. I just can't shake the feeling.

    I don't blame you for wanting to take time away from ZEJ after the mess over the past few days. I would too, but I have a duty to stay. I'll miss your face (and your memes) around here, Eebit. Hope we can still talk on Twitter, since I don't believe I have you as a friend on Facebook.
  3. lmao @Eebit
    goodbye you silly fuck
  4. [​IMG]

    We'll wait for you.
  5. @Nebulon Ranger - I could've sworn I added you as a friend on Facebook at one point, but I assume it must not have gone through because when I looked again it prompted me to add you again... at the time I thought you just didn't want me as a friend on Facebook LOL.

    lmao @Shadow
    read up you silly fuck

    @Keileon - Thanks. I'm sure our paths will cross again~
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  6. Shit mate, you're like a key figure in this community. Your absense might trigger an decline in activity, decency, and/or companionship.

    I honestly feel a bit betrayed.
  7. At the end of the day, you've got to look out for your #1. I can respect your decision, @Eebit, and believe I speak for damn near everyone at ZEJ when they say that they will miss you.

    At the same time, I hate to feel like I'm bucking on a trend or echoing someone else's regards because of you having just left now, but totally independently of mind, I've been mulling over the same thoughts of heading out on hiatus. You are right that the drama does not need to be extended, but at the same time, I still just need some time to myself to sort things out in my head, so I feel like this is all for the better for us both, buddy.

    See you around, ZEJ. And remember, always. Hold it dearly to your hearts:

    sex with a gorilla


    One more thing I want to make abundantly clear before I leave: Eebit has been a standard bearer in this community for ages, more than I ever was, but he, just like anyone else, doesn't owe anyone anything. He's doing this for himself to feel at ease and in a community that needs to come together, I hope that they can respect his decision as well as my own.

    To insinuate that all of ZEJ's hopes and dreams will be torched to the ground with one guy leaving is silly in the end if nothing else. Rally together and make this thing A Thing of your own volition, if that's what you want. Be a productive community based on respect, and know when to let the past be the past. Just like we all did at the beginning of it all. So declares the Jonno.
    #7 Jonno, Feb 28, 2017 at 5:42 AM
    Last edited: Feb 28, 2017
  8. All things considered, this is me formally and clearly saying it: I will not be coming back to ZEJ as a community.

    I've skirted the issue because I didn't want to lose the individual friendships I had forged in my years here over me leaving the community. I thought that saying surefire that I wasn't going to come back would lose me the friendship and the respect of those who remained. I thought that it would've made the reaction to my leaving more severe. And I wasn't prepared for that. It was childish, it was cowardly.

    I owe the community-at-large an apology. Miz's post (as well as things I've heard after leaving) makes it clear that I didn't give an explanation to the people who weren't on staff as to why I was taking my hiatus to begin with. I left you guys in the dark, and I apologize because it was unfair of me to expect that my frustrations would be accurately understood by the rest of the community when I didn't make an effort to convey them. It was requested of me on the night that I left that I open up myself to the rest of the community, and I declined because I thought that my main grievances only needed to be conveyed to the staff. More than that, it was an emotional discussion for me and I was drained by the end of it -- more than I ever thought I would be by leaving an internet community. I didn't want to go through that again.

    At this point I'm not sure if my reasons need to be publicly disseminated. I don't really want them deconstructed and reconstructed into something they are not. Ultimately, the community just isn't for me anymore. I don't think that I can come back to it from where I am.

    I'm sad that this means I'll never get to play in another roleplay with this group, never get to develop the Manaverse, never get to bitch about the wiki again... hell, I'm just sad that I don't have a community to exist in and engage with anymore. I like ZEJ, and it'll always be a huge part of my life. I'm proud of the things we got to create together.

    I'm sorry to you guys. I did let you down. At the time, I wanted to bounce back, and although I wasn't wholeheartedly set on returning, I know that I made an implicit promise, or strongly implied that I would be coming back. And I'm sorry to let you down there, too.

    I wish you guys all the best, and my (Discord, Twitter, Facebook, <insert>) PMs are always open if you guys want to reach me.
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  9. Thank you for the honesty.
  10. Ayy, sorry for my part in the drama here.

    It's kind of a shame you ain't coming back now it's turned into a pretty chill place again.

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